as i edge close to the one year anniversary of my new b00bz, i keep thinking of kernels of knowledge i can share with those of you who are either about to have surgery over your winter breaks, or are just considering having the procedure.
one thing i’ve noticed that i can’t help but share: my surgeon told me that it would probably take a year before i could notice the “full” results of the surgery. that seemed silly, as he removed 5 pounds of tissue from my body and it showed right away, of course. however, he was right! i definitely have noticed that my breasts have continued to shrink in the months following surgery… i’m still the same size in bras, but they’re softer, less swollen, and evidently take up less space. so if you still feel “too big” after surgery, PLEEEEEASE wait it out. they definitely continue to reduce over time.
the following random info is basically a response to FAQ
also, at least from my experience, my nipples now work 100% time when they’re supposed to
and my scars are like, really not noticeable, except at the edges. i’m fortunate to have skin that doesn’t scar much. i used bio oil and mederma off/on. mederma worked better, but honestly, time was really what healed my body more than any cream. lotion helps to hydrate those areas and reduce redness.
no, i don’t care about being naked in front of someone
yes, i can buy cheap bras
yes, you can always message me with questions about the procedure :)
no, i won’t post naked pics because i have 20 college freshmen i’m responsible for teaching and i’d probably die everywhere if they saw my boobs—even in an “educational” context
I never understand the logic of people who tell you what’s best for you- especially when you’re the one in your body.
exactly! i hate when people talk shit about those who have elective cosmetic/plastic surgery. as long as that person doesn’t have a psychological disorder like body dysmorphia, WHO CARES? nobody EVER says they wish they had waited to have a reduction—but many of my mom’s friends who had it done said over and over again that they wished they had done it sooner.
i will never understand sister sizes ( a semi-rant)
because my blog features a lot of lingerie talk, i thought i’d raise the topic of sister sizing in bras. when i was a teenager, there was a style bra i liked at a victoria’s secret, that wasn’t in my size (then a 34dd). the sales associate recommended that i try to wear a 36D because upgrading a band and downsizing a cup should theoretically have the same fit.
the results were ghastly, with my breasts spilling out of the cups. since then, sister sizing has bewildered me. even at my largest, crammed in a 34H bra that strained across my back, the woman in the fitting room didn’t understand why it fit so much worse than the 36G bra I wound up buying.
No matter the size, sister sizing has never worked for me. I admit, after my breast reduction, when I was measured at a 38C, I was nervous that this uncommon band size meant I’d be doomed to keep buying 70 dollar bras (not the case at all). If a 38C=36D=34DD, logic should hold that I could fit into a 36D or a 34DD. Nope… my breasts were hanging out the sides and the cups were baggy!
Oh, and I will say that if you ever have a reduction, you might still end up with an uncommon band size. Plastic surgeons can ballpark cup size, but it’s impossible to predict your band size. When I tell people I wear a 38C bra, they always say I’m wearing the wrong band size and should look into sister sizing (wrong).
Breast reduction is a reconstructive surgery, and while my surgeon assured me I’d be a “full” C, he couldn’t guarantee whether that meant a 36, 38, 40, etc. the 38 band accounts for the fact that my breasts are wider than they are protrusive now. They look gorgeous, but because they were basically remade, that’s reflected in the unlikely bra size. I’m lucky that I can still buy 10 dollar bras at Target in a 38 C, but I would caution some people that after surgery, it might not be surprising to have a large discrepancy between cup/band size… and that might mean expensive or hard-to-find bras.
But I digress… I’m sure there are people out there who can wear a variety of cup/band combinations. I am not one of those people, and my experiences have only ever been bad and strange—no matter how big or how small my jugs are. Surely I am not the only one?
to all you ladies worried about your scarring after surgery: i wound up using mederma (i have used it for ONE week) and already my scars have faded really rapidly. it’s kind of pricy, but the nice thing is you only have to apply it once a day. just something to think about, since i know there’s a lot of scar-fading products out there. bio oil was okay, but nothing compared to mederma.
i think you just have to go into it not hating your scars. i mean, i definitely don’t. mine were also pretty minimal. i had no real expectations from mederma so when i noticed how well it worked with VERY few side effects, i was pleasantly surprised. but i also think just letting time take its course would have worked—and likely been a healthier alternative.
okay that’s it. best of luck with your surgeries/recoveries.
haven’t been in the breast reduction tag in a while, but i noticed a lot of you that have been posting have upcoming surgeries. wishing you all the best. don’t hesitate to message me if you have any questions or just want to chat about the whole procedure. i know it helped me a lot!
i’ll be at the five month mark of recovery on the 19th. i’ve started to kind of casually pursue scar treatment. mine aren’t really that bad, just underneath my tits (and how often are you really looking there?) but i’ve been applying bio oil once a day, and i have noticed some decreased redness… otherwise i have almost all of the feeling back in my nipples (YAY!!!) and they look nice, which is obviously a good thing.
basically still jazzed. the only complication that could possibly arise at this point is that i won’t be able to breast feed, but i don’t give a shit about that because fuck babies and all
marimargret asked: Hi! I just read about your breast reduction and I wanted to stop by to say that you're not alone. I want one in the future, after I turn 18 in a few months and can get in to see a specialist. I'm not as large, as many young women who get them are, but I'm a 32 with DD and I have scoliosis, so the extra weight really hurts. I hope that I can be as brave as you and go through with it. Much love. Xo
Oh thank you for your lovely message dear! I totally empathize with your struggle and i wish you the best—whatever you decide—about a reduction. if you ever want to know more about the process, the procedure, and the recovery, feel free to message me (even on anon, if that makes you comfortable). i’d be happy to talk to you. thank you for your words of support. xoxo
Okay. I’m going to tackle this point by point and try not to lose my temper here, which you should know is incredibly difficult when someone says something so fucking ignorant and hurtful that I honestly feel like puking while reading it.
For many people who get a breast reduction, it is a medical necessity. In fact, I would argue that for most people it is. I haven’t been measured in a while and I’m spilling out of a DDD bra, so we’ll just call me an F. That’s pretty big. Have you read the breast reduction tag? People much bigger than I are posting there, detailing their struggle with heavy breasts that cause insane back pain, and unbelievably painful shoulder grooves from bra straps. My own symptoms include the way my breasts affect my neck, which in turn gives me headaches that make me feel like I’m dying. So yes, it is most times a medical necessity… or would you have us all live in pain to satisfy your ignorant opinion? And even if it isn’t a medical necessity, who are you to dictate the breast size of other people, whether they wish to be bigger or smaller?
Furthermore, not only girls get breast reductions, and I personally would appreciate if everyone would include men and trans* people who get them as well. Also, not everyone likes men. Queer people do exist, you know.
If you think I give one tiny fuck what any man thinks of how big my breasts are now or how small they will become, you are wrong. There isn’t any man in this world that I am getting this surgery for and I don’t care if “men will like me more with bigger breasts.” I don’t exist for the pleasure of any man and neither do my breasts. They are mine and mine alone. I am getting this surgery for me.
Finally, most people would kill for this size (which is bullshit anyway) until they understood what it actually felt like. And if they still would kill for this size and can handle it, then let them get breast implants and more power to them. But I know what my body can handle, and it can’t handle the feeling of being run through with a sword everyday through the back. My surgery is an insult to other people who want breasts this size? How fucking dare you?
Let me repeat myself: this is for me. This is not for anybody else. I have been objectified and made fun of and in pain long enough. This is not an insult to anyone and if you think that, then here’s an insult for you: your brain is tiny and you likely can’t understand every fifth word I’ve just typed here. But let’s see if you can grasp this concept: FUCK YOU.
i just can’t with this. i’ve been really emotional lately, and i’m a little drunk, but this just made me so sad that i cried. the good thing is, most of my female friends (even with very small breasts) completely understood and supported my decision! it seems like anon really is an anomaly, but it still hurts to see this kind of sentiment.
a few people—usually not anyone i knew well—thought that it was ridiculous or something that i was having surgery, and i just could NOT figure out why! i’m a size 6; i had G cup breasts. for fuck’s sake, my surgeon removed FIVE POUNDS of tissue from my breasts.
"guys will like you so much better with larger breasts." i just don’t even know where to start with this. actually, it was becoming increasingly uncomfortable to be intimate with someone when my breasts were so large because i felt like a fucking freak. it was impossible to fully relax and enjoy myself. i’ve only slept with one person since surgery, and while it wasn’t exactly easy to show him my fresh scars, i was much more comfortable being naked now than i was a year ago.
i was convinced that the people who liked me, or wanted me, only wanted me for my tits—not anything else. who the fuck wants that? and beyond that, who cares what the romantic or sexual partners in your life like if you don’t even like yourself?
boob pains are still nuts… it’s possibly related to the amount of lifting/dragging my belongings i did yesterday when i came back to athens.
i’m really wishing i still had my painkillers at this point, but OH NO, i just had to party with them (by party with them i mean i’d just get really weird by myself and watch twin peaks). anyway. the moral of the story is: SAVE A FEW OF YOUR GODDAMN PILLS.
maybe these are phantom pains for the flesh of my old giant titties…
haven’t made any posts on breast reduction in ages… but that’s because things are great and my life is almost entirely back to normal! minus the creepers in the street, impossible-to-find-clothes, and crippling back pain.
my new tits turn 3 months old next week, which is a pretty exciting milestone. however, today i have had CRAZY shooting pains… sudden and sharp. every so often this happens, so i can only assume this is still a matter of nerve endings reattaching, as lately i’ve noticed my nipples are starting to get hard, and i’ve had way more feeling in my breasts.
i’ve read some other posts that the shooting pains will happen off/on in the first year, so i know this is normal, but man was it painful and unexpected!
i wrote in a post i deleted (because i ranted about something unrelated to breast reduction that i’m over now) that i was properly measured for a bra over the weekend. I’m a 38C right now, down from a 36G. I was able to buy two bras at Victoria’s Secret for $100.00, which would have just barely paid for one bra in my former size. The amount of styles, shapes, colors, and materials I could pick from was really exciting, though I opted for practical (though not unpretty) bras. A lot of the bras in a C cup feature padding or have a push-up effect, and I’m still not ready for that right now, though I’m sure I will be soon.
Today at Target, I perused the lingerie section and also found a lot of pretty bras in my size, for very low prices. A bra for under 10 dollars? I’m not sure i have EVER bought a bra for that cheap before! All told I have 5 new bras for less than $150.00. and they’re PRETTY.
i do notice that i feel a bit uncomfortable in these bras at the moment. i think it’s because i was used to a bra with a huge band (three rows of hooks and eyes), so much wire that the cup extended to my ribcage just to support the weight of my breasts, with a high-rise to keep my breasts from pouring out. Being able to wear bras that offer much gentler support is definitely strange and will just have to be something I’ll get used to. I’m looking forward to it.
my breasts are really soft now, like, about as soft as they were before i had surgery. i’m sure that if someone else touched them (without seeing the marks from my incisions under my breasts), they’d never know I had surgery, so that’s very encouraging.
In the meantime, I really want this bra: http://www.whatkatiedid.us.com/product/60/bullet-bra
sjuttioelva asked: Thank you for the follow! By the way I love your text "breast reduction as political action". What you wrote is exactly what I've felt and also very describing of one of the reasons I'm also doing the same surgery. (I'm an european 32H). Haven't got the date yet but it'll happen in the next 3 months. So exited! Any tips?
I’m going to post this publicly, and I hope you don’t mind. I think others could potentially benefit from tips.
I’m not sure of the differences between US and European sizes, but I was a 36 G, so I think we’re both on the much, much larger side of things, and I really feel like when one’s breasts are that large, there shouldn’t be many doubts about whether a reduction is right (although, of course, many people have their reasons for not wanting one). I’m glad you liked my post.
As far as tips, I think you should really try to take care of yourself over the next three months. If you smoke, it’s very important that you stop as soon as possible, though I’m sure you know that. If there are any burning questions you have, you should vocalize them. Don’t be afraid of annoying your surgeon. Surgery is a BIG deal, and if there’s something you’re concerned about or don’t understand, it’s important that you ask. Try to really relax in the days leading up to surgery, as stress is just about the worst thing for the body! Your surgeon might prescribe some anti-anxiety meds in advance (though mine did not), and if you’re really nervous, you should take them. I was lucky that I had a month of winter break with no real obligations, so I was able to really focus on recovery. If it’s possible for you take time off from work or school, I’d recommend asking for two weeks. Spend time on the couch. Take your pain medication. Do nothing. Try to enlist your parents, or a best friend, or a partner to help you if you need something, as I found the first three days were impossible to navigate without lots of help.
Once you feel mostly back to normal, the swelling has gone down, and you’re not taking your pain meds around the clock, it’s important to remember that your body is still healing itself, and there are likely still traces of anesthesia (and maybe even morphine) in your system that could make you feel weak. I made the mistake of over-extending myself once or twice, which led to my being stuck on the couch the following day, buckled by fatigue. So I guess it’s important for you to know your limits and listen to your body. It’s okay to say no to people and plans.
OH, the one thing I wish I’d been warned about was that at the 2 week post surgery mark, although I mostly felt alright, I had a series of a few bad days when my nerve endings were reattaching and I had constant shooting pains.
Hope that helps! Let me know if I can be any more help xo
my response to an ask from halewolves
MY ASK WOULD NOT ALLOW ME TO RESPOND TO THIS MESSAGE.
Halewolves asked you: I just wanted to say that I LOVE that post you made. I feel so much the same way. Yes, back pain is a huge reason I not only want but need this surgery, but I am sick of being objectified. So completely sick of it. I’m glad there are other people who can relate to that depth and I just wanted to thank you for making that post.
My response: Thank you for your kind words. There’s such a great community in the BR tag, whether women facing upcoming surgery, or those who are celebrating the anniversaries of their own. This is a situation that is hard to wholly understand unless you’ve gone through it, so having this group to turn to has been so important to me. As always, if you or anyone else reading this, need someone to vent to or have questions, I’ll be happy to talk to you! xo